the case for support

In creativity, deep thoughts, motivation, relationships, upside by Jay Clouse

Back in 2014-15, I was busy building and running a ticket marketplace called Tixers. A lot of the time, it was really in-the-weeds and miserable work. Not only was it rough work, but there weren’t a lot of people I could talk to and relate over it. So it was during this time that I really became close to my …

going first

In inspiration, leadership, motivation, relationships by Jay Clouse

I’m really lucky to be in Columbus, Ohio. Having been in one major city for the past nearly 10 years, I’ve been able to dig deeply into different communities here, and create a good name for myself in a handful of circles. Because I pushed myself to “network” and volunteer in the community several years ago, it’s actually not very …

the hidden risk of taking advice

In deep thoughts, inspiration, learning, relationships by Jay Clouse

Make no mistake, one of the most important factors in my life has been mentorship. But there’s a surreptitious risk to mentorship — and it’s when “advice” isn’t really advice. Sometimes, “advice” is really a veil over self-validation. Instead of giving thoughtful, calculated, and unbiased recommendations based upon personal experience, sometimes people will simply give prescriptive “advice” that you follow …

relationships and infinite games follow up

In inspiration, leadership, learning, relationships by Jay Clouse

I got a lot of great feedback on yesterday’s piece related to relationships and finite/infinite games. A little bit of inside baseball, I realized the terms “finite” and “infinite” games may be new to some folks. I borrowed the phrase from a book by James Carse called, Finite and Infinite Games. The phrases are defined on the cover of the …

relationships and infinite games

In building a business, relationships, sales by Jay Clouse

I really can’t overstate the value of relationships. Relationships really make the world go ’round, and they are also (in my opinion) the most fulfilling part of life. I’m blown away by the volume of Linkedin messages and emails I get on a daily basis that jump from zero (I don’t even know this person) to 100 (want to hire …

what do you mean you can’t?

In motivation, relationships by Jay Clouse

I take issue with the phrase, “I can’t.” There are a few different meanings behind the phrase, “I can’t:” I am (truly) physically/mentally/emotionally unable I believe I am physically/mentally/emotionally unable I have a conflict and I refuse to prioritize this I have no conflict I just don’t want to In the case of meaning #1, the phrase “I can’t” is acceptable. …

protecting myself from myself

In inspiration, learning, relationships, sales by Jay Clouse

You probably know what it’s like to feel like you’re seeing opportunity all the time. Maybe it’s your own idea, or someone else bringing you an opportunity, but it seems like when we’re open to it, opportunity is surrounding us. But every time we say yes to an opportunity, we’re implicitly saying no to another. So if you’re like me, …

appreciation

In inspiration, relationships by Jay Clouse

There isn’t much people enjoy getting more than appreciation. It doesn’t cost you anything to give, neither time nor money, and it’s virtually impossible to give too much of it. Hey, thank you for ____. I noticed you did ____, and I really appreciate that. With such a powerful gift at the ready at all times, why not give more?

vulnerability and conflict

In learning, relationships, stories by Jay Clouse

There’s a lot of talk these days about vulnerability and the need for people to embrace making themselves vulnerable. It’s something I’ve put a lot of thought and intent into over the last several months, with varying degrees of success. For one, it’s difficult for me to understand the line between transparency and vulnerability. This newsletter, my social media, the …

opinions vs. experience

In learning, relationships, stories by Jay Clouse

I spent this weekend with 14 other individuals in a Florida Airbnb named, “Decadent Compound” as part of an amazing birthday celebration of my good friend, Jordan. She booked the trip with the intention of bringing together 14 people who have been important to her, that she thought would get along, and frankly most of us were strangers to one …