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on dating

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Something’s been eating me. Ever since I started writing again, there’s been one topic that I’ve always wanted to write about, but felt that it was untouchable: dating. It is an uncomfortable and risky topic for me to dig into, but I’m going to do it. There will be no anecdotes, there will be no “subtweets” and there will be no names …

opportunity vs. timing

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One of the rarest phenomenons we experience is “good timing.” With so many variables constantly in play, it’s nearly impossible for things to align and present an opportunity in an ideal time and space. Opportunity brings risk, ambiguity, and an element of fear. It’s very easy and very tempting to write off opportunity by calling it “bad timing.” But opportunity is …

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friendly reminder: everything is going to be fine

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How have you been? “Good, busy…” I know. We’ve all been busy. And right now, maybe things are stressful. Maybe things are hard. Maybe you’re really struggling with one thing in particular. Maybe that one thing is consuming all of your mind right now. I’m just here to remind you that everything is going to be fine. Look outside right now – …

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cutting myself some slack

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When I was in middle and high school, my favorite thing to do before baseball practice or games was to go to McDonald’s. I know that sounds sad and weird, but I promise it had nothing to do with the food. My friends and I were obsessed with these new Megatouch kiosks that let us play Photo Hunt. If you are unfamiliar …

you are not the only variable

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A couple years ago, I saw a headline that I thought for sure was the Onion. It read “Everyone is totally just winging it, all the time” and it was not an Onion piece, but a piece in the Guardian. The point of the article is this: nobody in any industry, from any walk of life, in any position of authority, has anything figured …

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just shut up

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It’s so easy to sound like an idiot. If you go on Facebook right now, odds are there is a trending story based on something someone said. And with tools like Twitter, it’s easier than ever to ‘say’ something you probably shouldn’t – and those are the things that really follow you around. It’s much more difficult to sound smart. I have …

on being alone

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A lot of the time when I write these pieces, it’s almost an exercise in convincing myself of an idea. I think by publicly saying, “I believe and act this way” it helps to reinforce my inner fortitude to believe and act that way. This is one of those times. I’ve always been an independent guy, I’m not afraid to go places …

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one question to form relationships faster

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Social interactions are so fascinating to me. There is so much routine and bullshit and unnecessary intro cadence we’ve come to expect and operate on, but it’s the standard way of starting and forming any relationship. “Hi, I’m Jay.” “Hi, I’m [name].” handshake “How do you know [mutual friend]?” “[anecdote I’m only vaguely interested in hearing]” “Oh, ok, that’s [slightly …

rediscovering short-term goals

In inspiration, motivation, productivityby Jay Clouse6 Comments

It has been 369 days since my last “weekly email” was sent. It has been 192 days since my last formal journal writing. I had built up a decent readership, you guys were great at opening up with commentary and replying to my email blasts…it was, by all my own personal measures, successful. What happened? Well, that’s a great question. …

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authenticity is liberating

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I was probably about 14 when I first read Paul Laurence Dunbar’s poem, “We Wear the Mask.” I’ve never been big on poetry, probably because it threatens my own pride in being able to grasp things quickly and easily. Poetry is hard — repeat attempts to really understand, or at least to form a theory of one of the possible meanings…not really …